To say people take their weddings seriously can be a massive understatement. Honestly, the culture has made a big deal. A beautiful, Disney-esque wedding with an amazing backdrop and being surrounded by loved ones seems to be the aim for most.
While living a scene from a movie and getting married in picturesque fashion is a great goal to have, for most, it’s unrealistic. The institution of marriage is supposed to be about being united with the one you want to share your life with, in front of people you love. It’s supposed to be about the people.
But, that isn’t an excuse not to make your wedding the best day ever. Successfully planning a wedding is so hard it’s created a market for those willing to get paid for dealing with the stress. Even if you have a planner, you’re still involved, so here are some tips on how doing it right and avoiding stress.
Get organized, then organize some more
Get a wedding binder. Just do it. It’ll potentially save you a ton of time and frustration. If you have a great wedding planner they’ll already have one because they know keeping your thoughts and articles in order is the only way to do it.
Once you get your binder, tab it, colour code it or add separation pages. The goal is to know where things are in your binder at all times. Wedding planning and prep is stressful enough as is. The last thing you need to deal with is shuffling through a pile of potential venues for receipts.
Sit down with your fiance and discuss (realistically) how this will go
In your rush to get things done and make things perfect, there’s a possibility for a disconnect. If that disconnect is with the other 50% of your wedding that’s no good. A serious discussion needs to be had to create realistic expectations. Also, it’s nice if both of you can make the wedding your own.
The beauty of planning is the two of you aren’t alone in this. You both have each other to lean on and bounce ideas off of. Take advantage of that.
Once you’ve established your budget, be thorough about sticking to it
The hardest part of establishing a budget is accepting that there are limits to your vision. Maybe you wanted to get married at the same venue as your favourite movie star. It’s possible you imagined your wedding would be on a yacht. As long as you remember that it’s about the people and love you shouldn’t be too phased, however.
The good part about a realistic budget is that it gives you a space to work in. You know exactly what you can do without breaking the bank. This can be powerful. Use it to your advantage to have the most spectacular wedding for YOU.
Now, for the fun part
Once you have all the drab stuff out of the way you can have fun. Pick who’s coming, design your RSVPs, pick you decorations and choose the most stunning venue you can afford. Don’t be afraid to get creative with your venue choice. You can pick anywhere from a beach to a redone warehouse if it suits your aesthetic.
Remembering these moments forever
Once you’ve picked the place, chosen the caters and brought in the people the only left is to have a day and night you won’t forget unless you’re drinking. Since you probably will be, the last important piece is a photographer.
No matter how the photos look, you’ll remember the day fondly forever. However, bringing in the right people to catch those moments can be the icing on the cake. The people at Blue Bend Photography are professionals that understand photography in general but specialize in wedding photography.
If you want your moment to be immortalized via stills or video, you’re safe in their hands. Check them out at http://www.bluebendphotography.com/2015/07/claxton-farm-wedding-photos/.
No matter what you do or how you choose to plan your wedding, I wish you and your loved one the best.